It is said that you never really know how someone really feels until you have a conversation with that person. I recently had the opportunity to engage in one such conversation and I must confess folks, it was quite revealing. Allow me to give you just a little back ground before I get started and I will refrain from using any names here.
Now, I have known this man whom I held in high regard (and to some extent, still do) for just a little over fourteen years through a working relationship. However, you know what they say; “I know him but I really don’t know him”. He comes across as very compassionate, understanding, personable and an honest person. Extremely easy to talk with and from what I could surmise then and still to this day, he does not have a single racist bone in his being… He’s intelligent, disciplined, methodical, calculating, loyal and driven to be successful, all of which are qualities that I respect, admire and have personally aspired to incorporate in my life…His smile and demeanor are very disarming and could leave one with the impression of a docile man…But make no mistake about it, he’s a sly fox and skilled predator who knows how to shake people up in order to get what he needs to get done…These are for the most part pretty much common traits in all successful business men and women..
I first met him, by way of a referral through about 15 years ago through some IT Techs who were impressed with me and my work…So they helped to open the door for me to work with and for this man and it has proven to be a very successful and rewarding business relationship for both of us. His business had grown exponentially over the years and I was entrusted with building the communications and data infrastructure for his over thirty locations.. Each location opened without a hitch and when he had sold the business out a few yeas ago, I had nothing to complain about because he took me along for the ride and I will always be grateful for the opportunity he gave me. So when he very recently decided to pursue another business venture, I was contacted and with some hesitation ( only because I had retired) opted in… Besides, I was contemplating doing a little something on the side anyway to keep me somewhat occupied.
So now, a few weeks ago while working at a new location, I was sitting in an office performing a little programming…He walks in, asks me how am I doing and gives me a fist bump ( cause he knows that I’m not a hand shaker)..
He then proceeds to talk about black people and how we need to stop bringing up slavery and what happened forty years ago. Man, you know I just had to take a moment to let this marinate and think about whether or not he really understood the gravity of what he was saying. Was this a statement that he truly believed in his heart or was he just regurgitating some BS that he and a lot of folks like him have heard other people say over the years and even more so lately.. I mean I gotta tell ya, I had to catch myself because either he was being extremely audacious or was just plain ignorant because stupid he is not. Did he really feel that comfortable with me that he could speak that openly with me? Was he really that disconnected or did he possibly feel that because of his position (You know, the man who signs my checks) and being white, that this actually granted him that privilege? I really had no answer but I definitely wanted to put him in check.
He continued talking about my people as though he were some expert on African-American history,culture and behavior. You know that mentality that most white folks have which is that (we all look and act alike)..This man’s ancestors not only enslaved Africans but committed some of the most heinous and cruelest atrocities against my people and now we should just forget about it!! You see, it’s like saying if someone get’s their ass whipped every single day for years, well they should let bygones be bygones. Hell no, you need to always remember that shit because they may just try to do it again and you need to be ready for it!! I can almost guarantee you one thing and that is, if the situation were reversed he wouldn’t be trying to forget about it and odds are he’d be more than likely thinking about how he could get revenge and possibly turn the tables..That’s just how most white folks roll man..They don’t forget and they don’t forgive, they find a way to get even with your ass…
He then to talked about what Trump had said regarding the state of Black people and how the Obama administration had done practically nothing for us and what did we have to lose by voting for Trump? Sadly to say there are a lot of black folks that feel the very same way…You know it’s very interesting and just a bit comical just how much white folks forget how we got into this predicament in the first place. They always seem to conveniently have a lapse in memory of how white America has always managed to put various strangle hold measures in place that pretty much impeded the progress of most Black people.
You see, they don’t want to talk about that imbecile Bush 43 and his administration’s lack of oversight which allowed the economy, wall street, and housing market to crash and how we were inextricably plunged into a financial crisis.. How their rapaciousness dragged us into an unnecessary war, how he blew a trillion-dollar surplus and how the pentagon misplaced 2.3 Trillion dollars all under his watch (oh and let us not forget about that inside 911 job that they’d like us to believe was committed by some folks from a third world desert country)…Yeah, these so-called Saudi terrorists were slicker than the US intelligence department which probably wrote the book on slick aka espionage and covert activity…But they are sure quick to point out how badly we’re doing under Obama (click link) who just happened to create millions more jobs than Bush, as though his administration did such an outstanding job. Really??(SMH)….He also wanted to make a point of just how much black on black crime there is and the high number of murders that are being committed these days and how disproportionately the percentages are as it relates to blacks being killed by cops as opposed to whites being killed by cops and that cops should be given due process. I had to remind him that our brothers and sisters who were being executed by these cops were also entitled to that same due process but were denied it by a cops bullet that rendered their own form of justice (death). I also let him know that my people will stop talking about the injustices when the injustices stop and that we’ll stop talking about slavery when white folks stop talking about the holocaust, pearl harbor,the 911 hoax and other atrocities that they suffered. They would have been talking about white slavery but it hasn’t impacted them as it has black folks and besides they don’t want to be telling folks that their ancestors were once enslaved by their own!!!!They’ll deny that all the way to their graves and claim it was indentured servitude.. They always like to make foul shit that they have done sound palatable….Much easier to digest!
Why is that white folks are always trying to tell black folks what we should and should not be doing and what we should and should not talk about? You ever notice how when you bring up all the foul shit that they’ve done, their response is ( that’s in the past) no need to bring up shit from the past and how we need to get beyond it and move forward… They always want to sell us on how good Blacks have it now and some BS about how great and virtuous they are in order to keep folks distracted from the truths. You know, like we should be thankful that we’re not still slaves and we should shut the hell up….You see, this is the kinda ignorant self-righteous, holier than thou condescending mentality that could make a righteous people become ruthless and wicked and want to inflict some serious pain upon them but most black folk are just not like that.. Maybe we need to be, to some extent!!!
Perception Influences Perspective
My last post I wrote a little about the “power of self” and this post as you can see is about the “power of influence”. Both of these correlate with one another because one cannot happen without affecting the other in some fashion (be that good or bad). We are all influenced in some manner or another and that can happen in many ways. I read this book called (The Psychology of Influence and Persuasion written by: Robert D. Cialdini, PhD) and I couldn’t help but think of how much it applies to this 2016 Presidential campaign and all the negative and repulsive ( yet revealing ) comments and antics that surrounded and enveloped it. This book as well as this election is an in-debt revealing look into the weapons of persuasion and how they are implemented.. Unbeknownst to us, we encounter and fall prey to them almost every waking hour, minute and second of the day…
The “power of self” can also be an influence on not just our lives but the lives of others both indirectly and directly. Basically, what it boils down to is how one or the other is used.. Now these can be negative or positive but either way they are interlocked. Weapons of persuasion are used to affect our thoughts and emotions which will yield the desired effect. In this case, the outcome of the 2016 Presidential election!!!
This election has been exactly that, an overwhelmingly display of influence and weapons of persuasion. It serves as a classic example of how folks have allowed things they heard, things they wanted to hear but didn’t or things they thought they heard, things they saw, things they wanted to see but didn’t or things they thought they saw affect their judgment and now we and the world bear witness to its effect . They have allowed elements or mediums outside of themselves to take complete control of their minds and emotions and affect them immensely without much evaluation. That which impacts our perception will ultimately affect our perspective.. The massive amount of energy and effort set in motion campaigns on both sides whose purpose or intent was to ultimately persuade folks to vote for their respective candidates. There were also other entities, sources and people who individually and some collectively who spoke of how they felt about both candidates whether positively or negatively attempting to influence and persuade folks to vote or not to vote for these candidates. This occurred from all ethnic, religious and special interest groups. To sum it up, it was an immense aggregation and amalgamation of propaganda, emotions, thoughts, stink and garbage… Speaking of religion, isn’t there supposed to be a separation of church and state?? Oh that’s right, only when it is a matter of convenience and agendas……
Hypocrites!!! But ya’ll go ahead and keep listening and following these impostors and crooks masked in the cloth of righteousness….B.S.
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Questions to self;
What do I want out of life?
Do I have any idea of what it is that I am seeking?
Do I find myself on a seemingly perilous journey that appears to lead to nowhere?
Do I often times wander aimlessly about with no real sense of purpose or direction?
Do I feel as though I am irrelevant and that my life has no meaning?
Do I find myself admiring the life of others and feel shameful about the life that I am living?
If you have answered yes to all of these questions then you are wasting your life away…If you have answered yes to one or two then you definitely still have some soul-searching to do..If you don’t understand anything about yourself, what could you possibly hope to understand about others and life in general?
You see life is a construct of many unknowns and can be just a little bit confusing at times. The worse is not knowing oneself and not understanding what we are capable of. If we have not been given fundamental teachings of principles and morals in our homes or elsewhere, then we are left to our own devices. I know this all too well and have lived it…
Principle; a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning.
Morals; a person’s standards of behavior or beliefs concerning what is and is not acceptable for them to do.
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